Abandon the Marital Bed

On The Barefoot Bum, I found a link to an article on Islamic prescriptions for violence against women.

It is really no surprise that Muslim men exhibit medieval attitudes toward women, after all, the West has only recently adopted an officially non-demeaning attitude to women.

Art reflects life: Shakespeare's Petruchio took a subtle approach in The Taming of the Shrew, yet John Wayne – who should simply have fetched his wife's belongings – was ultimately less than gentle with Maureen O'Hara in The Quiet Man.

Despite an improvement in society's official attitudes, some men-will-be-boys-will-be-bullies and violence against women does continue as a manifestation of immaturity and control-freakism. In the West, violence against both women and men is illegal.

The author of this rambling piece in the Yemen Times concludes an apology for violence against women with:

"Dear readers – especially women – don’t think that I hate or am against women; rather, I simply mean to preserve the morals and principles with which Islam has honored us.

I hope my message is clear, since it’s really quite relevant to the future of our societies, which must be protected from any kind of cultural invasion."

This pronouncement that Islam has honored society with morals and principles that include beating wives and daughters follow fast upon the following declaration:

"For men, it begins with abandoning the marital bed, by opting to sleep elsewhere in the house. After this, they may discuss the matter with any respected person for the husband’s or the wife’s family, who could be in a position to advise the wife. If this also does not work, then the husband yields to beating the wife slightly. They do this because of a misunderstanding in the Quran, as the word says Darban, which is commonly understood today as beating. However, in Classic Arabic it means to set examples or to announce and proclaim. The more accurate meaning of this last one is that the husband finally has to set forth, to make a clear statement or proclamation, and if these measures fail, then divorce is preferable."

If wife beating is the result of a misunderstanding of the Quran, then how can the author claim that Islamic society has been "honored" with attitudes that the civilized world despises? This is just a case of special pleading – justifying wrong action by saying that it is a sign of honor that must be protected from reasonable criticism.

One wonders if Muslim husbands ultimately resort to more punitive coercions because their wives are only too delighted to have the husbands abandon the marital bed.

Original: There must be violence against women.

Found : Why I love Islam, There must be violence against women

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